Lessons after six months of marriage

Here's some of the things I've learned six months into my rookie season as a husband:
(The following is approved by my wife.)

  • Say 'I love You' as much as possibleLife is hard. We can all use more assurance that we're loved.
  • Leaving the toilet seat up is a real thing. Don't do it. Ok, I lied. Do it once. It's hilarious. Don't do it again.
  • It's no longer my schedule, but our schedule. Check in with her before making any concrete plans. It's not about who wears the pants, but a matter of respect for each other's time.
  • Make sure to get the right ring size. Otherwise, you might get blisters.
  • Serving together keeps us together. Serving each other gives us joy
  • Carve out 'us-time'. Once a week is what is usually recommended, but do what works for you. Don't try and kill two birds with one stone, focus on her.
  • Have more fried chicken. I've never heard of marriage being ruined by having too much fried chicken. 
  • Girls snore, burp, and fart too. Don't act surprised. It ain't awkward unless you make it awkward.
  • Enjoy time apart. Don't feel guilty about it. Marriage isn't the end of your life, it's an enhancement to what life can offer.
  • Don't call your wife 'dude'. 
  • Don't let her win in board games. You're ruining the sanctity of games. Play to win, or else go home. Unless you're at home. Then stop just playing.
  • Find a different workout buddy. Our bodies are different. Our strengths and weaknesses are different. Don't expect to be exercise with the same intensity and frequency.
  • Your friends are still your friends. Don't forget about them. They still matter. They still have problems. They can still listen to yours. You can still kick their ass at NHL. Make time for it. 
  • Family is your first ministry. Put it before all your other ministries. Always.
  • Don't become a marriage salesman. Some people don't want to. Others can't. Everyone has their own story. Be content, but don't try and sell your story to someone else. 
  • Have healthy talks about (future) children. Don't keep it buriedIt's a question that is going to come up. It's ok not to know the answers, but don't expect the topic to go away just because you're not talking about it. 
  • Be hospitable
  • Listen to your wife. She is usually right. Except when she's wrong, but making her feel like she's right will make you look like an all-star husband. 
  • Find out what your wife loves to eat. Get good at cooking it. It makes you look like an all-star husband. #humblebrag
  • Don't walk a mile in her footsteps. You'll stretch her shoes.
  • It's okay to do what you want sometimes. Chivalry isn't dead but give her opportunities to make you happy too. Don't get a saviour complex. Sam days are great.
  • Visit Your Parents. It's new for them too. Experiment. Try different routines.
  • Massages, Pedicures, and Manicures aren't just for women. Your body will thank me.
  • Double dates are awesome. They don't replace normal dates though. Have both.
  • Don't live for her. Live with her. She doesn't need to be the reason you're living. She wants to make stories together with you.
  • Don't be fooled by your bank account. You're not richer than before you got married. You may have double the income, but you also have double the costs. Don't spend all of your money on shoes.
  • Seek out couple mentorsThey know things you don't know. Find wisdom. Take their advice. Don't be stubborn.
  • Mentor younger couples. Giving is good. It'll remind you why you married her in the first place. Don't keep it to yourself. Don't be selfish.
  • Share everything. Except the bed covers. That is a war you must win.
  • Don't pull the "I'm sleeping in the other room" move when arguing. It's a bad move. You look like a jerk. Plus, your bed covers are in the other room anyway. Leaving would be like forfeiting. Don't do it.
  • Fart whenever you're in a room with her. You're married now, dude. It's a rite of passage.
  • Keep growing. She didn't marry you to be the person you are. She married the person she believes you'll become.